Thus, children are usually mischievous, but some children are also extremely stubborn, from whom it is not only difficult but also impossible to do any work, however, an American neurolinguistics and hypnotist woman says that if children do not obey what they say, ask them. Words can be changed to suit your needs. According to him, the style of words can make children obedient and through it, they can do anything. She offers these tips for parents worried about their children's behavior that it's okay to try.
According to her, these words are scientifically proven to affect children, for example, if a command is given to children by saying "do this" instead of "don't do it", it will have an immediate effect. Don't make your room dirty Don't do this. Don't do that. Use positive sentences instead of negative sentences which have a magical effect on children because negative sentences hurt children so instead tell the children, Let's clean the room, put the shoes on the stand and the toys in the closet. These phrases will positively affect the child and he will start to act. Every day mothers say to their children,
Hurry up, put on the school uniform, and this sentence does not affect the children. Instead, offer children many choices, such as what to take to school for lunch today or whether to wear a new or old uniform. And ask the children to present it in a questioning way. Such phrases have a great effect on children.
Likewise, offer children choices about homework, for example, whether they want to do English first or do their weekly project. With these words, children are mentally prepared for the task. Similarly, instead of asking children to feed themselves, put many food options in front of them. The word when used correctly has a significant force. Parents can do important work for children by using this word in the right place. For example, when will you finish your homework, do we have to eat or, when you do we will go for a walk outside? In this sentence, there is a task for the child and an attractive pastime. Good salesmen use these same phrases
Similarly, when giving schoolwork to children, tell them that when they remember the lesson, they will realize how easy it was. Use appropriate language to build a strong bond of understanding between you and your child. Say magic phrases to children like I can understand how much work there is like you or you can be like me and know how easy it is to do homework. Words like me or like you encourage the child and he is willing to work. Children want to please their parents and they also want their approval. So next time, say thank you to the children before washing their hands, turning off the TV, or giving them water, which motivates them to take action and work. Children are curious and want to explain everything, so it is important to develop some level of understanding of tasks
That's why before doing any work, it is important to give the children a brief reason for doing it. For example, I can't buy clothes this month because a big expense has come up. This makes the child satisfied. Two of the most powerful words to motivate children to work are the words listen and think. For example, listen, we have to do this because if we don't, it could be a loss, or if we think about how good it would be if we did our homework. Such phrases affect children and thus you can get them to do anything. Many children complain about everything to their parents, so one solution is to repeat the same complaint back to them but with a solution, and that too in a very effective way. If the child says it's getting hot, you say, Oh! So if you want a little chill, open the window or take off your jacket. You may find that a child who complains repeatedly like this will become satisfied and quiet.
Like words, the tone has a lot of power. Children rarely listen to what is said in a harsh and angry tone. But if the same thing is said calmly and lovingly, children follow it happily. Try to choose the right words when talking to children. And watch your tone too. Never speak to a child in such a tone that the child would feel rude if he spoke the same way.